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Rethinking New Year's Resolutions: What's Your Starting Point?

December 28, 20234 min read

Rethinking New Year's Resolutions: What's Your Starting Point?

New Year's resolutions, starting over, runners

The Trap of Perfection

January 1st. The New Year. A time to symbolically start over.

When considering what resolutions to make, the natural starting point for many of us is to focus on our imperfections. Our New Year's resolutions can be seen as an opportunity to “fix” ourselves and correct all of last year’s mistakes. Through them, we hope to discover a perfected, happier, better version of ourselves.

You’ll find no shortage of articles in both secular culture and Catholic circles that advise on how and what to improve. From there, we set the bar at a nearly unattainable height for faith, family, finances, and health. “I should pray more.” “I should be more loving to my family.” “I should be more responsible with my money.” “I should eat right and exercise more.”

“I should…” “I should…” “I should…”

We stay distracted by all the ways we fall short of impossible standards. We get tangled in half-truths.

We believe the closer we get to perfection, the more lovable, respected, competent and accepted we will be.

We tell ourselves that attainment of perfection reflects our worth, our goodness.

Then when we (inevitably) deviate from our new plan or program even the slightest bit, we feel guilt and shame...then eventually give up. This is why most New Year’s resolutions don’t last very long. What an impossible and incredibly discouraging undertaking!

New Year’s resolutions draw us in by preying on our fear that we are not good enough, and reinforce a distorted belief that we need to earn love. This jumpstarts our anxiety, motivating us to strive to correct our imperfections. Although the resolutions that we strive for are good, there is a reason why they often don’t last the year: we're starting from the wrong place.

Clearing the Obstacles

We try to find our worth in things that by their nature will never fulfill us.

Instead of living in this distorted reality, our faith invites us to become aware of a profound truth: that we were created good and are loved, just for being alive. Our dignity comes from Christ’s redemptive love which incorporates us into God’s adopted family. It provides us with the belonging that we all seek.

God loved us first (1John 4:19). We don’t need to earn it!

As someone who has accompanied those struggling with mental health difficulties, I have frequently witnessed cycles of discouragement. One of the most important realities I try to communicate with each person seeking healing is that they are lovable and good regardless of their efforts. I hope to clear the obstacles standing in the way of being receptive to God’s unconditional love.

This love is certainly salient in the sacrament of confession.

New Year’s resolutions are often a catalyst for change; the experience in confession can be similar to this, but the difference is that we come to the Lord in our brokenness. Confession brings to mind that our loveableness does not depend on our efforts. We experience there what we are truly looking for at the deepest level. We are loved in our brokenness, in spite of our brokenness, and beyond our brokenness. The Lord sees us - the real us - and He accepts and loves us in our failures.

In confession, we are given the grace to be receptive to God. By starting here and accepting His love in our areas of weakness, all the goals for self-improvement begin to happen as a fruit of a loving relationship. And it happens in such a smooth and natural way. We are awakened, empowered, and enabled by God’s grace, to be holier, to be more loving, to be better stewards of God’s gifts, to be healthier and more virtuous.

We become a better version of ourselves when we receive God’s never-ending outpouring of love.

Starting Anew: Resolutions Rooted in Acceptance

This New Year, resolve to frequent the sacrament of confession as frequently as possible. Then, as you're making your resolutions, consider starting from a place of already-loved. Let your goals for the year be created knowing that God's love is, always has been, and always will be, yours, without you needing to earn any of it. 


Experiencing emotional distress or simply looking for support grounded in sound Catholic spirituality? We can help! Schedule a time to speak with our team to learn more.

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Related Being Human Podcast Episodes:

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Dr. Greg Bottaro

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Popular PODCAST EPISODES and blog articles

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Rethinking New Year's Resolutions: What's Your Starting Point?

December 28, 20234 min read

Rethinking New Year's Resolutions: What's Your Starting Point?

New Year's resolutions, starting over, runners

The Trap of Perfection

January 1st. The New Year. A time to symbolically start over.

When considering what resolutions to make, the natural starting point for many of us is to focus on our imperfections. Our New Year's resolutions can be seen as an opportunity to “fix” ourselves and correct all of last year’s mistakes. Through them, we hope to discover a perfected, happier, better version of ourselves.

You’ll find no shortage of articles in both secular culture and Catholic circles that advise on how and what to improve. From there, we set the bar at a nearly unattainable height for faith, family, finances, and health. “I should pray more.” “I should be more loving to my family.” “I should be more responsible with my money.” “I should eat right and exercise more.”

“I should…” “I should…” “I should…”

We stay distracted by all the ways we fall short of impossible standards. We get tangled in half-truths.

We believe the closer we get to perfection, the more lovable, respected, competent and accepted we will be.

We tell ourselves that attainment of perfection reflects our worth, our goodness.

Then when we (inevitably) deviate from our new plan or program even the slightest bit, we feel guilt and shame...then eventually give up. This is why most New Year’s resolutions don’t last very long. What an impossible and incredibly discouraging undertaking!

New Year’s resolutions draw us in by preying on our fear that we are not good enough, and reinforce a distorted belief that we need to earn love. This jumpstarts our anxiety, motivating us to strive to correct our imperfections. Although the resolutions that we strive for are good, there is a reason why they often don’t last the year: we're starting from the wrong place.

Clearing the Obstacles

We try to find our worth in things that by their nature will never fulfill us.

Instead of living in this distorted reality, our faith invites us to become aware of a profound truth: that we were created good and are loved, just for being alive. Our dignity comes from Christ’s redemptive love which incorporates us into God’s adopted family. It provides us with the belonging that we all seek.

God loved us first (1John 4:19). We don’t need to earn it!

As someone who has accompanied those struggling with mental health difficulties, I have frequently witnessed cycles of discouragement. One of the most important realities I try to communicate with each person seeking healing is that they are lovable and good regardless of their efforts. I hope to clear the obstacles standing in the way of being receptive to God’s unconditional love.

This love is certainly salient in the sacrament of confession.

New Year’s resolutions are often a catalyst for change; the experience in confession can be similar to this, but the difference is that we come to the Lord in our brokenness. Confession brings to mind that our loveableness does not depend on our efforts. We experience there what we are truly looking for at the deepest level. We are loved in our brokenness, in spite of our brokenness, and beyond our brokenness. The Lord sees us - the real us - and He accepts and loves us in our failures.

In confession, we are given the grace to be receptive to God. By starting here and accepting His love in our areas of weakness, all the goals for self-improvement begin to happen as a fruit of a loving relationship. And it happens in such a smooth and natural way. We are awakened, empowered, and enabled by God’s grace, to be holier, to be more loving, to be better stewards of God’s gifts, to be healthier and more virtuous.

We become a better version of ourselves when we receive God’s never-ending outpouring of love.

Starting Anew: Resolutions Rooted in Acceptance

This New Year, resolve to frequent the sacrament of confession as frequently as possible. Then, as you're making your resolutions, consider starting from a place of already-loved. Let your goals for the year be created knowing that God's love is, always has been, and always will be, yours, without you needing to earn any of it. 


Experiencing emotional distress or simply looking for support grounded in sound Catholic spirituality? We can help! Schedule a time to speak with our team to learn more.

Catholic Mindfulness Virtual Retreat course, less anxiety, peaceful mind


Related Being Human Podcast Episodes:

new year's resolutionsembracing imperfectionsunconditional loveconfession and healingpersonal growth and faithself-acceptance and gracegod's unconditional loveresolutions rooted in faithspiritual development
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Dr. Greg Bottaro

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